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Appleton WI

Anyone have an answer to my spouse problem i.e. her not liking my pumpkin growing activities? John Appleton WI

9/7/2014 7:43:11 PM

Upa Creek, MO

I suggest getting stir crazy all winter, fake cabin fever even if you don't have it. Talk a lot about sports she doesn't like, don't shower, sing obnoxiously, gain 50 pounds, and by spring she'll want you out in the yard.

9/7/2014 7:51:02 PM

Menomonie, WI (mail@gr8pumpkin.net)

Go to the bar...

9/7/2014 8:22:20 PM

Marion WI

divorce

9/7/2014 8:58:42 PM

Appleton WI

Hey thanks I have not tried MO suggestion and i do not think I could pull it off anyway...because I do not want to get fat and the sports deal is out and stir crazy in out and I have to have a shower once in awhile...and as far as the Bar bit goes...I do that all the time but usually after my gardening or between planting or while planting She just hates me being so enamored with this pumpkin thing WOW

9/7/2014 9:01:45 PM

Appleton WI

Divorce.....WOW I have thought about it but that is really out of the question she is very nice to me and feeds me well...but I just can not garden the way she like and pumpkins are a waste of time go figure

9/7/2014 9:03:33 PM

this has all ingredients for next country music blockbuster song

9/7/2014 9:14:06 PM

Karns City PA

It will eventually get better, I had the same problem and sometimes still do a little lol , I try involving her as much as I can and things have got way better, I just explain that I spend a lot of time prepping and working very hard and she finally noticed that I really love doing it. I also tell her I could be out running around away from home and going to the bar but wouldn't you rather me be at home in the yard :) It is an addiction :) Gotta love it !!

9/7/2014 9:15:04 PM

Ely Mn

wow heavy stuff!!its definatly a ballancing act.throw the D word right out ,there are other solutions.you have to treat them extra special when you are not out in the patch!:)

9/7/2014 9:15:38 PM

Karns City PA

lol Don so true!

9/7/2014 9:16:26 PM

Minnesota

Grow her favorite vegetables, and flowers also!

9/7/2014 10:12:17 PM

Paradise Mountain, New York

Take her to a weigh-off and that will change her mine big time. She will meet a lot of great growers and can talk to other growers wives. Plus other growers wives will give there two cents why they support there husbands...

9/7/2014 10:21:08 PM

Buffalo, MN (Billsbigpumpkins@hotmail.com)

Before we properly answer this can you tells us?
Do you have children?
How long have you been married?
What is your age?
What does she want you to do?

9/7/2014 10:22:27 PM

Torrance, Ca.

Master P is right:)

9/7/2014 10:43:07 PM

Smithville, Tn

I guess I just lucked out and found a keeper. My husband is growing gourds, cinderellas, fat jacks, mustangs, goosebumps,autumn wings, butternut, spaghetti squash, turbans, baby boos, jack b littles, just to name a few and all I have is 3 fat kins. I have to help with his harvesting and he helps with my loading and hauling.

9/7/2014 11:47:37 PM

Alberta

Hey John..Quit hiding the bar bills from her..she will soon love to see you in the patch..

9/8/2014 12:38:26 AM

Mission Viejo, CA

On those early mornings, just give her a nudge and ask her if she wants to have sex, or should you just go out to the patch?

She will tell you to go to the patch.

9/8/2014 1:38:20 AM

Bethlehem CT

KC, that made me laugh

9/8/2014 7:21:00 AM

Central Illinois

Do the laundry and bleach out all of her clothes
Cook ,but leave all of the dishes for her to clean
Clean the carpets with a broom, then dont dust the furniture
paint half of a room
take up tuba lessons
buy some viagra

9/8/2014 7:38:43 AM

Williamsburg,KY

John, everyone should be able to have a hobby, maybe she needs one. My husband thinks Im a nut for growing these mutants. I tell him, you knew I was different when you married me, do you want me to be someone Im not. There are compromises in life. Now what would happen if your wife reads these posts. Dang...be nice to the one you love.

9/8/2014 8:13:59 AM

Cameron

Find a giant variety that might interest her & let her get involved. Maybe something like a giant tomato, tall sunflowers or even a giant rutabaga. Something that doesn't take too much time. A family that gardens together, grows closer together. Good luck.

9/8/2014 8:22:43 AM

Appleton WI

Hey my KIN Pals: I love all the reply's...really do I will answer all of them as time goes buy....but I really as an aspiring novelist, love the Block Buster Country Song! John

9/8/2014 9:44:31 AM

Mill Bay, British Columbia

Build her a new deck/patio and install a new veggie garden...

My spouse is totally into the pumpkin thing and I could not grow as easily without her...lucky I guess!!

http://www.bigpumpkins.com/Diary/DiaryViewOne.asp?eid=228004

9/8/2014 11:21:47 AM

BC, Canada

I love starting my day with a laugh. Thanks!
North shore, I immediately thought of your new deck when I read the thread. Kevin, the word "patch" can be interpreted in a couple of different ways but good idea. The problem with divorce is she might get the seeds in the settlement.
I suggest you grow roses all around the edge of the patch and cut her a bouquet everyday. Tip- Don't name your kin after her, there's the whole fat thing.
Me- look up the word uxorious. I'm lucky I guess.
Now I got to work on the words for the C&W song, it'll be in my head all day.

9/8/2014 11:45:40 AM

Salem, Ohio USA

Take her on the next pumpkin cruise March 1-8, 2015.

9/8/2014 1:20:59 PM

Menomonie, WI (mail@gr8pumpkin.net)

Pumpkin Envy is very popular. I learned the second time around and had this statement added to my wedding vow. Do not question how much time or money I have spent on my pumpkins, and I will not ask about shoes or purses. If they don't see gardening and being in the backyard as a good thing. I suggest you take up fishing and hunting.

9/8/2014 1:46:00 PM

Wixom MI.

Win that $5000 first place prize. That might help. But then you will have a lot of new problems when she spends it all !!!

9/8/2014 2:50:06 PM

Colorado

If it makes you happy,she should go along with it....end of story

9/8/2014 3:44:42 PM

Little-TON - Colorado

The hardest part is when she says.... You gonna let Joe Scherber beat you again this year?......Gulp....Yes Dear....

9/8/2014 4:11:19 PM

Torrance, Ca.

That's tough WiZ, that's tough :)


Did she ask yet this year?

9/8/2014 5:21:21 PM

Eastern Pennsylvania

In the December of 2007 I met Missy and on our third date I told her about the pumpkin thing and what it entailed. I let her know if she couldn't handle it we should probably stop dating. We just celebrated our first wedding anniversary on sept 6 and all is well. I always take a chunk of my pumpkin prize/ sales money and get her something nice. Last November it was a $1000 tennis bracelet. It helps trust me. She's also made some good friends over the years through pumpkins.

9/8/2014 6:01:38 PM

Omaha, Ne.

Pumpkin growing parable;

Growing giants won't just happen on their own. It takes a lot of hard work, hours of learning and most importantly dedication and persistence, must be willing to to ask questions and listen to mentors. Plus, go to seminars, conventions and read at every chance you get. Fellowship with groups of others who are better at it than you are to improve your growing skills. When diseases come along. You must learn to manage, not just give up and move to another patch, because you will get the same problem again and not have learned how to manage it.

Growing giants and marriage are not very different if we would only put even a small portion of our lives to pursuing our spouses like we once did before marriage. Then we went be so floored to find that they aren't happy with our leftovers. They just want to know that they are still first, just like we would want.

Friends come and go, pumpkins are just pumpkins, building into the love of your life will pay off the rest of the days of your life.. Love, laugh, grow.

Replace the word diseases, with resentments.... Tip of the day. Apply forgiveness daily.

9/8/2014 8:43:10 PM

JACKSON, WISCONSIN. ; )

I told my wife she can have all of the winnings.... Prize payout goes along way when they like expensive purses.... She has made me grow bigger and bigger ever since....... My pb is 1625.5 now......I say..
Happy Wife Happy Life

9/8/2014 9:27:15 PM

JACKSON, WISCONSIN. ; )

I hope to meet you both this fall . No mater how big or small it all starts at a weigh off...
Also the wife's do have fun too at these things...

9/8/2014 9:30:03 PM

Torrance, Ca.

That was pretty deep Darren!

9/8/2014 9:45:44 PM

Bethlehem CT

Wise words Darren, Now if I can just apply them in my own life.

9/8/2014 9:48:43 PM

Napa Ca.

Set a new world record and give her all the money. She was happy for a few months. The problem is, she wants more.

9/8/2014 11:37:54 PM

Napa Ca.

Wish you the best of luck Fluffy.

9/8/2014 11:39:00 PM

Central Illinois

Give her a plot to grow one, you till it, weed it and prune it. The rest is up to her maybe she will get competitive with you.

9/9/2014 8:24:28 AM

West Paris Me.

My problem is with my grown daughter. She knew when the fair was and she would put my grand sons BDay party on the same day and a at time when I could not possibly get to the party on time if I stayed until the end of the weigh off. She knew how hard I worked but felt that I should make the sacrifice. I wasn't even the same week as his BDay. This caused a lot of hard feelings, because I know that she did it on purpose. I figured that if I gave up the weigh off, she would be looking for the next thing for me to sacrifice.
Fluffy I hope that this works out for you. I can just say to make the time that you do spend together quality time.

9/9/2014 8:06:51 PM

Mission Viejo, CA

I've had some pretty strange hobbies, from raising worms, to collecting LP's (i had thousands!) to garage sale shopping every saturday and sunday to ebay.

My wife loved me through it all. Now, she shares the joy of growing giant pumpkins.

I am a blessed man.

9/9/2014 11:54:35 PM

Upa Creek, MO

Having kids helps too. The more toddlers and babies around, the more you are forced to be at home. I have changed my practices and am able to at least have one out in the yard with me while vine burying etc. As for the full days of patch prep, laying irrigation, tilling amendments, I take days off work so she isn't around to complain. She likes to fish and camp, but could care less about my pumpkins.

9/10/2014 7:15:12 AM

Appleton WI

Hey thanks again...Yes I have tried Flowers No Avail But I do have a special plant that sucks in Monarch Butterfly's this time of year...It is called liatrus Ligulistylis I just love that plant...and my Wife ms Laura does cotton to it too...so that does help....But Big Pumpkins Bummer dude...go figure John

9/10/2014 9:18:27 AM